No, I must disagree. Most of my friends are right in the centre. Many are starting families, but are also working on careers and are well intentioned gym goers who I speak to less and less because life is too busy.
Sadly no, i had - and still have to - reduce it. I’ve always been proud of my discipline, but i never used it to take care of myself, but instead used to push myself harder than i was able to sustain long term (runs in the family too). Too much discipline isn’t a good thing, it becomes selfdestructive.
Discipline is a form of self care. I think you are conflating a method with outcome in that case. I’d argue that it takes discipline to take care of yourself AND others.
This is my experience, as well. It sounds like I’m a few years older than you, but almost everyone in my larger friend group is/was doing all of these things, particularly so if the bottom left is just “intensely focused on some new niche hobby.”
No, I must disagree. Most of my friends are right in the centre. Many are starting families, but are also working on careers and are well intentioned gym goers who I speak to less and less because life is too busy.
How the fuck does anyone have the energy for all that?
They don’t do all equally well, and none are done above average.
Discipline. Basically.
Discipline, also known as ignoring basic needs until one burns out with a whole bunch of different outcomes from addictions to suicide
Healthy outlook you’ve got there…
You sound like you need to learn discipline.
Sadly no, i had - and still have to - reduce it. I’ve always been proud of my discipline, but i never used it to take care of myself, but instead used to push myself harder than i was able to sustain long term (runs in the family too). Too much discipline isn’t a good thing, it becomes selfdestructive.
Discipline is a form of self care. I think you are conflating a method with outcome in that case. I’d argue that it takes discipline to take care of yourself AND others.
The only difference is the amount of self-worth someone has - if you deem yourself not important, then discipline comes at a cost.
I don’t have an answer for that. You just do what you have to do.
This is my experience, as well. It sounds like I’m a few years older than you, but almost everyone in my larger friend group is/was doing all of these things, particularly so if the bottom left is just “intensely focused on some new niche hobby.”
Yeah I was about to say - I’m all of these things. I feel like that’s pretty common.