• reksas@sopuli.xyz
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    3 days ago

    Every day i had it installed i cursed that i had to even use the application, it just made me feel miserable and that i’m just cattle for the corporation, not human being searching for another.

    It constantly trys to hook you into spending money and reminds you that you might be missing out if you dont with the blurred profiles of people that have liked you, which are always someone from hundreds of km away anyway or bots, but they might not be also.

    And there is also that I’m neurodivergent, so it also filters me out from majority of other people > others just think fundamendally differently than me. And only people that match with me are people i’m not necessarily that interested in but would be willing to at least get to know them, but that isnt very good starting point for finding a girlfriend. I know i would have at least something to offer to others, but i’m not that good at expressing myself so I wont be given a chance or will get misunderstood because i can’t express myself in right way.

    Mere existence of dating applications kind of make me anxious, since it means other people will be using those instead of being open outside of them. I dont want to even use them, but i feel that i’m forced to if i want to meet people that are looking for anything.

    I have also used other applications too, like badoo, hinge and even okcupid. While on tinder you get more matches than on those others, people seem to be less interested in actually talking with you.